The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks

The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks

The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero is, as you might guess, a book for women about how to have sex with other women.

From the title and the girly pink cover design, I must admit was initially a little skeptical whether this would turn out to be a quality book. However, my appreciation for the book grew once the author explained in the introduction that her ideal title for the book would be “A Guide for Women Who Usually Have Sexual Relationships with Men and Who Would Now Like to Explore Sexual Relationships and/or Brief Encounters with Women.” In this introduction, the author talks about problems with labels such as “straight”, the fluidity of sexual orientation, and explains everything in a very open and sex-positive way. I appreciated how she never makes statements such as “If you do/like that then that means you are this.”

This book is written in a casual manner, as if you were listening to advice from a close female friend. Although on occasion this writing style comes across as somewhat unprofessional, overall it makes the book easy and fun to read.

A good chunk of the book is tips and techniques for having sex with a woman, including fingering, oral sex, anal play, strap-on harnesses, safer sex solutions, and so on. Although not everything is specific to sex between two vulva-owners, there is a good chunk of information you won’t find in a typical cis-centric sex book. At the same time, this book definitely isn’t written for lesbians who are clear and confident in their sexual orientation. Although The Straight Girl’s Guide caters to a very specific audience, it addresses its audience very well.

I particularly enjoyed the amusing images, in which naked Barbies with Sharpie’d tattoos are getting it on (complete with tiny strap-ons!), as well as the little anecdotes scattered throughout the book. The author offers some good tips on how to meet other women, although I felt that too many of her suggestions involved going to a lesbian bar and/or just drinking alcohol until you magically feel comfortable. For those who are only interested in girl sex advice to have FFM threesomes, an entire chapter is devoted to negotiating these successfully.

Of course, as a toy reviewer, my brain went into High Alert Mode whenever I came across mention of sex toys. When it comes to toy materials, this book’s nine-year-old information needs a serious update. The author recommends jelly toys, which are toxic, porous, and can cause chemical burns inside of your vagina.  And since putting a condom on a jelly toy won’t necessarily protect you from Chernobyl-in-your-Pants, any modern tome of sex information should only recommend toys made from body-safe materials and reputable brands.

Overall, I really enjoyed The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks, and would recommend this book to any woman who is interested in exploring sexual relationships with other women.

  • Just stopping by to say you are awesome! Thank you for reviewing this with an honest and critical lens. Also, “Chernobyl In Your Pants” needs to be a sticker asap!

    • These stickers might have to become reality by popular demand.

  • I came here to see if this book would actually help me fulfill my desire to kiss a girl…but now I think my desire to see Barbies with tiny strap-ons is stronger. Great review! And I’m more than agreeing with the comment above about the sticker and your awesomeness.

    • Thank you! I grew up loving dollhouses and miniature things, so naturally now I have a fascination with teeny versions of sex toys.

  • Pantophile Panic

    Let me say, you did a great job of explaining the good and bad points of the book without going into so much detail that it became overwhelming.

    I am really disappointment to know that the author actually suggested people use jelly toys, as I had a personally traumatic experience with them. I would not want a sex toy n00b to see that and purchase something that could really hurt them. Yikes.

    This review was short, sweet, and to the point. Thank you.