I love instructional sex books, since I am always eager to further improve my skills at giving my partner pleasure. I wasn’t ready to lose my virginity until college, so I spent plenty of time on the internet in my younger years, soaking up all the information and tips I could find on how to give the best handjobs and blowjobs. I think it’s common for people to discount the value of sex books, believing they are only for clueless souls who can’t figure out how to insert part A into part B. There are some great books out there, however, and there’s nothing shameful about making an honest effort to learn how to be even more amazing in bed!
“Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide To Penis Pleasing” by Sadie Allison is clearly written for a cis female audience, which isn’t surprising for this genre. She briefly addresses gay people as being potential readers in the foreward, but the book never again acknowledges this audience… which is a bummer, since most of the ideas and info presented are applicable to people of any sexual preference who want some penis pleasuring know-how.
The book may be small, but the content is very thorough, and includes topics such as foreplay, male anatomy, handjobs, blowjobs, shaving, anal play, and what to do if he can’t get an erection or comes too fast. Subjects such as anatomy are explained in an easy-to-read way that is informative without being dull and clinical. The illustrations are black and white, and despite being on the cartoonish side, are reasonably clear at demonstrating the described techniques.
The handjob and blowjob chapters are detailed, and give step-by-step instructions on how to give one from start to finish, as well as describing quite a few tips and techniques: ways to hold and move your hand, flick your tongue, massage his balls, ease into deep throating, and more. There are FAQ sections that answer all your burning questions such as “What if I gag?”, “What if he wants me to swallow?”, “What if he’s pierced?”, and “What if he’s HUGE?”
I really like how she suggests some actual ideas for using vibrators and other sex toys on men, rather than just vaguely mentioning toys as a possibility. There’s even a whole chapter on how to trim and shave his pubic hair. Thoughts on how to bring up anal play are included, as well as a kegel exercise routine for guys. Chapters are divided up well to allow for skimming and skipping around.
There are a few parts here and there that I found somewhat objectionable, such as the rather blatant gender-stereotyping (men are obsessed with sports, women are anti-porn), and I firmly believe that “brie-like” should never again be used as a way to describe the taste of semen (*shudder*). I found it obnoxious to include the quote “he’ll jump for joy at the chance to skip those sensation-dulling condoms” in the handjob chapter, which felt especially misguided since the book sings the praises of condoms and practicing safe sex many times in other sections.
The drawbacks are fairly minimal, however, and overall I think this book is fantastic for anyone who is on an active quest to better please the penises in their life. It is engaging, and provides extensive information and plenty of good suggestions to try. I hope others will find “Tickle His Pickle” to be as thorough, fun to read, and useful as I did!